How To THRIVE in Your Life

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Are you tired of not doing what you desire? Are you tired of listening to everyone else’s advice on how you should or shouldn’t live your life? Are you fed up with other people squashing your dreams?

You know there is more to life. You know what you desire.  Yet, you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings by doing what you know is best. I get it. I have been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt! There comes a time, a turning point, when you realize enough is enough. You are tired of shrinking your dreams. You are tired of playing it safe and small. You realize it is time you are in the power seat of your life and it is time to THRIVE.  The only question remaining is how, right? Isn’t it always the ‘how’ that stumps us?  Well loves, today’s your luck day. I am sharing with you how to Get in the Power Seat and THRIVE.

I outlined how to THRIVE in the following paragraphs in a simple, easy way, so you can remember each guiding step. Each letter in THRIVE represents the steps you take to enable your life and dreams to grow, blossom, and shine bright for the world to see. Here it is:

T- Trust

                Trust yourself. Trust yourself with all your might. You are capable of conquering your fears. You are brave and powerful beyond measure. Trust yourself in the simplest of things you choose to do. Start simply by following through with what you said you would do when you said you would do it. If you told your sister you were going to call her tonight. Call her tonight. If you feel you don’t have time to chat with her or something else came up, call her anyway because you said you would. Simply follow through with what you said you would do when you said you would do it because this action will build trust within yourself.

H- Honest

                Be honest with yourself. It is easy to believe what other people have told us our entire life because we feel what they share with us is the truth. If we were honest with ourselves, we would realize 98% of our thoughts, feelings, and emotions are not our own. If we were honest with ourselves we would realize we want more. We deserve more. We want to stand up for ourselves. We want to shout from the roof top just how beautiful we really are… but we are afraid of what other people will do and say, so we stop ourselves. Be honest with yourself.  You’re more loved than you know.

R- Respect

                Respect yourself.  Each time you don’t do what you know is right for you, you tell yourself that you don’t respect yourself enough to follow through with what you want. It can be as simple as watching the TV program you want to watch. It could be going for a walk when no one else in your household wants to go. Or maybe you choose to go to the pool, sit alone, and read a book when you have been afraid to do anything alone your whole life. These are just examples of how you can prove to yourself you respect yourself.

I- Intentional Conversations

                Have intentional conversations with others. Don’t just talk to hear yourself talk. Don’t text or read a book at the dinner table or when you are with another person. Be purposeful with your conversations. When you have intentional conversations, you set the expectations and tone of the conversations, allowing the other people to trust you and reciprocate the action. Intentional conversations eliminate assumptions being made on your behalf and other’s. They can be loving, yet direct and to the point. You set the tone and purpose of your conversation. A lot less heartache will occur when you have intentional conversations!

V- Value

                Value yourself. Appreciate yourself. Be grateful for all the positive attributes you possess and share with others around you. For instance, in the morning before my feet hit the floor, I simply state ‘Thank you.’ I am stating thank you to me, to the home I am in, the people around me, to the Universe, to God, to all wonderful experiences coming into my life. By simply valuing myself, this very moment of wakefulness, enables me to set the tone of the day and live a more intentional life.  The more you appreciate yourself, the more others will appreciate you. The more you value yourself, the more others will value you.

E- Empower

                Empower yourself. Step outside of your comfort zone.  Shake off the fear of what others will think of you. Their emotions and reactions are of no relevance to your existence.  So who cares if you haven’t worked out in years?  Do it for you! It will be empowering. Who cares if you haven’t gone to the movies alone? Do it for you! It will be empowering. Who cares if you haven’t ever had a significant other in your life? Experience this life the way you want to experience it. Do it for you! It will be empowering.  Who cares if you haven’t ever traveled to Vietnam? Do it for you! It will be empowering. Whatever you choose to do, BE in the power seat of your life! Trust me. IT IS EMPOWERING!!

The reason we stay the stay the same is we don’t believe we are capable of the change we want. Most of us seek others approval because we are hoping someone will believe in us until we are able to believe in ourselves. Know that I am here for you. I am believing in you, even if I don’t know you. You have someone in your corner cheering you on, believing in you, uplifting you, and hoping the best for you always.


Here’s to YOU, THRIVING in your life!


Author: Sarah Sparks

Sarah Sparks is the founder of Create The   Spark, LLC. Sarah inspires and encourages high achieving, career driven women, who feel stuck, tired, worn out, and pulled in many different directions to put a SPARK back in their marriage and relationships. Sarah helps you become clear on who you are and where you are going so you may have the confidence and trust in yourself to make sharp, clear decisions, and to live a life full of success, joy, happiness, and peace. Connect with Sarah on Facebook at Create the Spark with Sarah Sparks and on her website at